Just as there are social conventions at a party, there are guidelines to texting.
Rule 1: SMS is not the answer to escape a phone call
Some guys think texting is safer than giving a girl a real call. It makes sense, but do not fall in that category. When you get a phone number, the next thing to do is figure out when you can both meet again. You will find more success making plans over the phone with your voice than with letters and emoticons.
If you text because you're scared to talk to her, how will you ever speak to her in person?
Rule 2: Do not seek responses for validation.
Value seeking texts can be things like, "What are you doing?" or "Can i hang with you and your friends?" This kind of texting comes off very needy, turn women off, and do not showcase your personality at all.
Check out these examples that are proven to be more successful:
"Your twin just walked past me wearing a purple sparkle fanny pack"
"Hi dork, I bet you're operating at 100% dorkiness today ;) "
Rule 3: Don't send too many messages
She might be the only thing on your mind at the moment but let's keep that a secret between us, otherwise you may freak her out. Text once and only once until you get a reply, then you may text back. If she doesn't respond to your text, you should generally hold off until tomorrow before contacting her again.
In addition, let some time pass before texting her back. Be non needy because in her eyes it equals sexiness and informs her you are a busy man in demand with several dating choices.
When in doubt, pace her. If she texts you back right away, you can text her back right away, but if she takes 10 minutes, then so should you.
Bonus Texting Tool: Use the text to familiarize her
Once you have her number, text her as soon as you can especially if she is standing beside you. The situation is hilarious in itself plus give yourself triple points if it's an inside joke or funny text. Here are some...
"You have my number now but you are only allowed to call me once per day."
"Wow! That guy you're standing next to you is hot!"
If, after texting her, she saves your number, take that as a definite indicator of interest. More importantly, when you call her later, your phone number will pop up and be familiar. This makes her much more likely to answer.
Rule 1: SMS is not the answer to escape a phone call
Some guys think texting is safer than giving a girl a real call. It makes sense, but do not fall in that category. When you get a phone number, the next thing to do is figure out when you can both meet again. You will find more success making plans over the phone with your voice than with letters and emoticons.
If you text because you're scared to talk to her, how will you ever speak to her in person?
Rule 2: Do not seek responses for validation.
Value seeking texts can be things like, "What are you doing?" or "Can i hang with you and your friends?" This kind of texting comes off very needy, turn women off, and do not showcase your personality at all.
Check out these examples that are proven to be more successful:
"Your twin just walked past me wearing a purple sparkle fanny pack"
"Hi dork, I bet you're operating at 100% dorkiness today ;) "
Rule 3: Don't send too many messages
She might be the only thing on your mind at the moment but let's keep that a secret between us, otherwise you may freak her out. Text once and only once until you get a reply, then you may text back. If she doesn't respond to your text, you should generally hold off until tomorrow before contacting her again.
In addition, let some time pass before texting her back. Be non needy because in her eyes it equals sexiness and informs her you are a busy man in demand with several dating choices.
When in doubt, pace her. If she texts you back right away, you can text her back right away, but if she takes 10 minutes, then so should you.
Bonus Texting Tool: Use the text to familiarize her
Once you have her number, text her as soon as you can especially if she is standing beside you. The situation is hilarious in itself plus give yourself triple points if it's an inside joke or funny text. Here are some...
"You have my number now but you are only allowed to call me once per day."
"Wow! That guy you're standing next to you is hot!"
If, after texting her, she saves your number, take that as a definite indicator of interest. More importantly, when you call her later, your phone number will pop up and be familiar. This makes her much more likely to answer.
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